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Malc

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I have resigned from coaching
« on: June 07, 2011, 12:41:29 PM »
After asking numerous times for a meeting to address disciplinary issues within my team, I eventually had a discussion with the director of football today and have subsequently resigned.
Basically they didn't back me.
I am so happy to have handed in my resignation

Offline Diane CBPFC

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Re: I have resigned from coaching
« Reply #1 on: June 07, 2011, 02:55:35 PM »
Well you sure put your heart into your soccer coaching - even by leaving on principal you have taught the boys a valuable life lesson.
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Offline The Peepmaster

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Re: I have resigned from coaching
« Reply #2 on: June 07, 2011, 03:29:00 PM »
I agree with Diane. It's their loss, however much they celebrate.
Nostalgia is not what it used to be. 😟

Offline Roger Kettle

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Re: I have resigned from coaching
« Reply #3 on: June 07, 2011, 06:24:30 PM »
That's a shame, Malc, particularly as you enjoyed coaching so much. Still, I suppose if the problems outweigh the pleasures, it might be the right time to go.

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Re: I have resigned from coaching
« Reply #4 on: June 07, 2011, 10:36:16 PM »
Good decision, Malc.  Someone has to stand for their principles.

Diamond Lil

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Re: I have resigned from coaching
« Reply #5 on: June 08, 2011, 06:36:03 AM »
Your skills are transferable...enjoy your next challenge.

Joan

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Re: I have resigned from coaching
« Reply #6 on: June 08, 2011, 07:24:15 AM »
Definitely their loss, Malc. Does this mean you'll give up coaching altogether?

Malc

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Re: I have resigned from coaching
« Reply #7 on: June 08, 2011, 09:46:45 AM »
I don't think I'll bother coaching again, Joan. I don't get any pleasure out of coaching mediocre players, arrogant as that sounds.
I put so much into it that it's depressing to have to endure the attitudes that exist in so many Youth teams. It's not enough to say "ah well, that's Youth football", I do know some teams full of players who are serious about the game, but the Australian system allows for fun-and-fitness eejits to stay on playing when in the UK they wouldn't be able to find a team. That may sound like a good thing for Australians, but it merely encourages a sophisticated environment for mediocre players (the provision of refs, linesmen, night games under floodlights, changing rooms, showers) when in the UK they'd be organizing their own games, playing for laughs on the rec at weekends - by far the most fitting option for them.
The Australian system is far too structured. Aussies (as Joan is aware) basically line their kids up early on to play a sport of one kind or another, whether it be football, rugby, Aussie Rules, swimming, etc.
To do this they join an actual club, with its own facilities, more often than not, and they are guaranteed to be selected in a team (even Div 6 or something) and enjoy a season of fixtures, with a coach (maybe a parent), officials and a governing body to complain to.

Therefore every kid is guaranteed some sort of official status as a Team Member, and if a parent isn't happy with their little genius's efforts at basketball, they can take them down to the football club and sign them on there - guaranteed a team, shirt, trophy at the end of the season - the lot.

This is all very well, and it encourages a kid to think that team membership is a RIGHT, not an achievement, whether you think that's a good or a bad thing.

However, when it comes to late teens and U18s particularly, you do get some clubs busting a gut to put together a team when really there aren't enough members. They then hit the phones ringing around former members asking if they'd like to come back and put on the boots for another season?
This way they often put out an inadequate side, just to say that slot and that commitment is filled, never mind that the team will get hammered every week.

That's the situation with my son's side this year. They were struggling with results, team morale at a low, players then start missing training. Lack of numbers at training means the attending players feel slighted, their heads go down - ever decreasing spiral of dejectedness. Add to that the fact that I had a four-man clique of saboteurs and dickheads who took great delight in messing around at training, two of whom I subsequently chucked out of the side, and you have a total depression setting in. I was then summonsed to explain why I had ejected the two culprits and told the Director Of Football that on two separate occasions the players left the field (one red-carded, one took exception to being substituted), they started effing and blinding calling me a c--- and saying they no longer wanted to be part of "this sh*t team" I invited them to make good that promise by not coming back.

The club did not back me on my stance, and invited both players back to training "pending a talk with the team coach"(me).

My view was that even inviting them back without discussing the issue with me, shows lack of courtesy, professionalism and good sense.

Hence my resignation. F*cking arseholes.





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Re: I have resigned from coaching
« Reply #8 on: June 08, 2011, 10:50:45 AM »
Even more proof you made the right decision, Malc.  Good on you.

Offline The Peepmaster

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Re: I have resigned from coaching
« Reply #9 on: June 08, 2011, 01:22:05 PM »
You did the right thing, Malcolm. It's good to find anther decent man of principle on this forum.
Nostalgia is not what it used to be. 😟

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Re: I have resigned from coaching
« Reply #10 on: June 08, 2011, 06:13:47 PM »
Quitter! :P

It's when you get the backing of the board you know it's time to leave. 
I apologise, in advance.